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Friday, September 20, 2013

Gut Feeling and Retrieving Memories of Bonding for Those Recovering from Childhood Abused

  Here is a letter I just sent many of my colleagues on LinkedIn and would like to share it with all of you interested in exploring gut feelings for body-mind unity. Whether you are a victim of childhood abuse or not, the inner work to unite body-mind is the same process and I think you will find this important:

Dear Colleagues,

Over the years, I have been successfully using the Somatic Reflection Process (SRP) on gut feelings to help people to unite body-mind. Often, and to their surprise, the people who experienced severe child abuse found that by using this process they were able to recover buried memories of bonding with parents. Even just one memory of bonding, of an experience of being loved by one’s estranged parent, no matter how short, can make a big impact and go a long way toward giving strength to and healing the self-esteem and suffering of a person who feels they were never loved by their abusive parent.

I would like to highly recommend a newly released memoir by Rosemary “Mamie” Adkins called “Reflections of Mamie: A Story of Survival”. I have been recommending her memoir to people of severe child abuse because it demonstrates so beautifully how a person feels recovering one of these forgotten moments of bonding in childhood with a parent/s and how important it is to the healing process to allow oneself the time to access these important buried memories. As you already know, the positive memories are certainly not the first memories that surface to the consciousness of a person who has been severely abused as a child, but Rosemary’s book is a powerful demonstration of how persistent inner work on severe abuse issues (and in her case it was through writing her memoir) leads to hope and recovery through finding the jewel in the rough of her experiences. I hope you will read her book and then pass along this recommendation to any of your clients that you feel would benefit from reading it too.

“Reflections of Mamie: A Story of Survival” by Rosemary “Mamie” Adkins, is available on Amazon in both paperback and Kindle forms:
and you also you can learn more about Mamie and her new book here:

Martha Char Love, MA, PMA
author of "What's Behind Your Belly Button? A Psychological Perspective of the Intelligence of Human Nature and Gut Instinct"

To follow up this recommendation, I would like to share an excerpt from our book, "What's Behind Your Belly Button?"and what a research participant who had experienced severe child abuse as a child said on the use of the Somatic Reflection Process directly after a session in which he uncovered a positive bonding memory with both of his parents simultaneously for the first time in his life:

(From Page 167-8)
"Bill, a male participant in his forties, indicated that the process had a “healing quality” and that he became aware of himself in his body on levels that he had not experienced using other “less body and feeling awareness processes” in the past."

Bill continues to say,
"It helped me understand things in degrees. Like seeing the degree and depth and amount of things [in myself]—it is one thing to say, oh my life has had such trauma; it is another to actually feel it in an embodied and conscious way so there is new—like fresh eyes experiencing.…" 

(From Page 169)
"Bill indicated that the process was “very useful” in understanding the painful feelings he was having in the present. He expressed the insights he had as he reflected upon childhood from the view of an adult observer."

"The best part was seeing it with the eyes of an adult rather than a child. I thought at one moment—God, people should do this regularly because I was visiting stuff that had frozen me. I had no idea as a child what or why these things happened to me, but now I’m an adult, and it’s remarkable to sit with that contrast. It has a remarkable healing quality."        

Click on a book cover below to go to Amazon to Buy:

"Increasing Intuitional Intelligence" is available on Amazon USA and Amazon UK
as well as Amazon,de and  other international Amazon sites

"What's Behind Your Belly Button?" is also available on Amazon USA and Amazon UK

as well as Amazon,de and and Amazon.CA and other international Amazon sites

and it is on The Book Depository with free international shipping.

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