Showing posts with label childhood memories. Show all posts
Showing posts with label childhood memories. Show all posts

Wednesday, February 13, 2019

The Elephant Memory! Increasing Your Own Memory Through Gut Feeling Awareness!


Science has shown that elephants do have excellent memories that decode and identify survival skills and imprint important data to be used later when needed. And for the elephant, this memory seems to increase with age and experience, leaving the younger of the herd at risk if the elders are captured or killed by poachers. Let's talk now about how we humans can improve our memory retrieval system through awareness of gut feelings and body-mind unity, a process that can be used at about any age and is one that may certainly increase our health, longevity, and the connection to the awareness of our inner Nature.

So much has been studied recently on memory and aging, on restoring memory and using brain scanning to determine how a variety of modalities to connect body and mind work (for instance meditation and hypnosis) and how they reduce stress. Stress has been found to be one of the main reasons for disease, including alzheimer's, confusion, and loss of memory. Over-secretion of stress hormones may impair long-term delayed recall memory.  

For decades we shared our experiences of using the Somatic Reflection Process with hundreds of people in counseling who were experiencing such high stress and confusion that they were having a difficult time making life decisions, particularly concerning career choice and relationships. By centering on the gut feelings of emptiness and fullness (and we are not talking about hunger but instead the feelings that are associated with the two human needs of acceptance and control of one's own responses and the impact of life upon us), and assisting the person to go back in time with their feeling awareness, people were able to be conscious of repressed feelings and examine the impact life had upon them with a clearer view than they did at the time of the actual experience. The gut feeling awareness seems to be the key to our stored feeling memory and most people using the Somatic Reflection Process will remember things they never thought of past the moment of the experience, particularly if it was a traumatic experience or one in which stress was experienced.

And how is this possible that the gut is the key to stored memory? Why is it that by somatically reflecting on the gut response, we can have access to our stored memories? Through electro-chemical communication, neurotransmitters send signals from one neuron to another in your nervous system. One theory is that when we allow ourselves to feel into our gut feelings, we send these signals that restore the synapses in the part of the brain that holds feeling memory. These feeling memories that we have long been suppressing are then called to connect like a magnet to these signals. So when we become aware of gut feelings, we invite hidden memory to emerge to our consciousness, transforming and uniting the body and mind, often for the first time.

And why is it so important to connect the gut and head brains, to restore memories, many of which we may be just as happy not to remember? Why? Because ultimately it is only through this connection of body-mind that we begin to make what is unconscious to become conscious,  that we become more self aware, that we find our deepest wisdom and reduce the stress of carrying the burden of misconceptions of who we are and who we are not. And only through understanding ourselves and accepting ourselves can we know and fulfill our instinctive needs that lead us on the path of happiness, fulfillment, and gives us a blueprint for making successful life-decisions.


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If you are interested in exploring the use of the Somatic Reflection Process to help you recover memory and for body-mind unity, then we suggest first reading our book What's Behind Your Belly Button? which explains the development and use of the process in detail and also includes a complete protocol for it. 



And we cover memory and gut awareness for health  throughout our latest book Increasing Intuitional Intelligence. Here below are two excerpts from Increasing Intuitional Intelligence that we think you might enjoy reading: 
 

Gut Feelings As the Key to
Further Development of
Memory Theories in Psychology


W
e are educators and school counselors, not neurologists, and although we could certainly speculate, we would not presume to say that we know why in a biological sense that reflecting on gut feelings is key to personal memory. However, from our extensive counseling experiences with the Somatic Reflection Process on gut feelings, we have observed that there is a strong psychological relationship between gut feelings and memory. It is as though reflecting on how one has felt in their gut in the past, begins to awaken feeling memory in the majority of people and this triggers even memory of external events or at least what the person assumed was true at the time of the event. We therefore, feel from this experience that memory theorists and researchers in the field are amiss if they do not explore the functional  relationship of gut feelings to memory.

Many people say that they cannot remember their childhood experiences prior to age 7 and memory studies by psychologists in the field of childhood development will tell you that this is normal. Dr. Patricia Bauer, Professor of Psychology and Senior Associate Dean of Research at Emory University in Atlanta, GA, has been researching the development of memory in children since the 80s. She has found that children begin to have a significant increase in the rate of forgetting memories of their past life events after the age of 7, or the onset of what was termed by Sigmund Freud as Childhood Amnesia.

For a long time, it was thought that the reason many adults could not remember events from their early childhood was because young children just did not have memory ability. But that has since been explored in research and Bauer concludes children do have memory ability but that memories from earlier than age 7 have an accelerated rate for being forgotten once the child is past age 7 than the memories formed after that age. Why the onset of this forgetting process is at age 7 is still in question and has lead to further important memory studies of children.

What is important here to us is that the memory research now being conducted on children concludes that recovering childhood memories is important to the development of personal identity and adult decision-making. This is a welcome validation of our work developing and using the Somatic Reflection Process on gut feelings to recover memory, with the affect of uniting body and mind in consciousness. The importance of recovering childhood memories is an understanding that we as career counselors have used in our clinical studies with people since the 70s, as we found that the seeds of who we are and who we become begin in early childhood. If we can become conscious of those beginnings, then we have valuable self-awareness information upon which to base healthy and successful life decisions as adults.

In our counseling work, we found something very shocking to many people who had no prior or very little childhood memories. When we asked people to center their awareness on their gut feelings to guide them and slowly to go back in time and remember when they felt a particular feeling in their gut before, they would be able nearly 100% of the time to access early childhood memories previously un-recalled. And those people who had previously been able to recall childhood memories were able to continue to recall additional memories using this gut feeling reflection process.

Gut Feelings as the Key to
'Feeling String Theory'

We discovered that the key to recovering childhood memories was to have people focus on their inner gut feelings and impact of experience rather than the details of their lives. We would ask them to come in their awareness to a place in their past when they had the same feeling they were centering on in the present (usually starting with a reoccurring feeling connected to an unresolved issue in the present time of their life) and then they would allow the details of the experience in the past to come to their own minds. Each time a feeling memory would come up in their consciousness, they were asked to focus on the feeling and continue to go back further in time. It was as if their present feeling awareness was attached to a thread that went all the way back in time to the impact of early childhood. One just had to follow the feeling and see where it landed. We like to say that our feelings are like sausages in a string, and that they are similar impacts of events that are connected. We could call this a feeling memory string.

Often, the early childhood memory in this feeling memory string was completely surprising to the person as the details of the event in childhood would be completely unrelated to the details of the person’s present life issue that was the trigger of the feelings. But if they focused on the feelings, it was clear that the issue was the same in childhood as it was in the present and the person was often still trying to work out this issue in the present, an issue that began so very long ago.

Using the head brain alone (without gut feelings) to think back to earlier childhood did not access new memories. But feeling back in time, particularly centering on gut feelings of emptiness and fullness, would take people back to feelings in relation to events in their pasts that they had not previously remembered. This was usually true in each successive session using the Somatic Reflection Process. The common response after these somatic reflections was amazement at remembering things they had not previously remembered and how useful it was in giving them new insights and perspectives into the present adult issue and decision they may be facing.

How this occurs, that is, how or why neurologically the gut feeling is the key to recovering memory, we never knew when we first developed and used the process in the 70s. We just knew that it worked and that it helped people to resolve issues they had been carrying all their lives and that the acquired knowledge of self through this somatic process on gut feelings encouraged positive adult decision-making.


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"What's Behind Your Belly Button?" is available on Amazon USA and Amazon UK
as well as Amazon,de and Amazon.fr and Amazon.CA and other international Amazon sites
and it is on The Book Depository with free international shipping.


"Increasing Intuitional Intelligence" is also available on Amazon USA and Amazon UK
as well as Amazon.de and Amazon.fr  other international Amazon sites
 

Friday, September 20, 2013

Gut Feeling and Retrieving Memories of Bonding for Those Recovering from Childhood Abused




  Here is a letter I just sent many of my colleagues on LinkedIn and would like to share it with all of you interested in exploring gut feelings for body-mind unity. Whether you are a victim of childhood abuse or not, the inner work to unite body-mind is the same process and I think you will find this important:

Dear Colleagues,

Over the years, I have been successfully using the Somatic Reflection Process (SRP) on gut feelings to help people to unite body-mind. Often, and to their surprise, the people who experienced severe child abuse found that by using this process they were able to recover buried memories of bonding with parents. Even just one memory of bonding, of an experience of being loved by one’s estranged parent, no matter how short, can make a big impact and go a long way toward giving strength to and healing the self-esteem and suffering of a person who feels they were never loved by their abusive parent.

I would like to highly recommend a newly released memoir by Rosemary “Mamie” Adkins called “Reflections of Mamie: A Story of Survival”. I have been recommending her memoir to people of severe child abuse because it demonstrates so beautifully how a person feels recovering one of these forgotten moments of bonding in childhood with a parent/s and how important it is to the healing process to allow oneself the time to access these important buried memories. As you already know, the positive memories are certainly not the first memories that surface to the consciousness of a person who has been severely abused as a child, but Rosemary’s book is a powerful demonstration of how persistent inner work on severe abuse issues (and in her case it was through writing her memoir) leads to hope and recovery through finding the jewel in the rough of her experiences. I hope you will read her book and then pass along this recommendation to any of your clients that you feel would benefit from reading it too.

“Reflections of Mamie: A Story of Survival” by Rosemary “Mamie” Adkins, is available on Amazon in both paperback and Kindle forms:
http://www.amazon.com/Rosemary-Mamie-Adkins/e/B008G6C0VM/ref=ntt_athr_dp_pel_pop_1
and you also you can learn more about Mamie and her new book here: 
www.Reflections-of-Mamie.com


Sincerely,
Martha Char Love, MA, PMA
author of "What's Behind Your Belly Button? A Psychological Perspective of the Intelligence of Human Nature and Gut Instinct"

To follow up this recommendation, I would like to share an excerpt from our book, "What's Behind Your Belly Button?"and what a research participant who had experienced severe child abuse as a child said on the use of the Somatic Reflection Process directly after a session in which he uncovered a positive bonding memory with both of his parents simultaneously for the first time in his life:

(From Page 167-8)
"Bill, a male participant in his forties, indicated that the process had a “healing quality” and that he became aware of himself in his body on levels that he had not experienced using other “less body and feeling awareness processes” in the past."

Bill continues to say,
"It helped me understand things in degrees. Like seeing the degree and depth and amount of things [in myself]—it is one thing to say, oh my life has had such trauma; it is another to actually feel it in an embodied and conscious way so there is new—like fresh eyes experiencing.…" 

(From Page 169)
"Bill indicated that the process was “very useful” in understanding the painful feelings he was having in the present. He expressed the insights he had as he reflected upon childhood from the view of an adult observer."

"The best part was seeing it with the eyes of an adult rather than a child. I thought at one moment—God, people should do this regularly because I was visiting stuff that had frozen me. I had no idea as a child what or why these things happened to me, but now I’m an adult, and it’s remarkable to sit with that contrast. It has a remarkable healing quality."        


Click on a book cover below to go to Amazon to Buy:


"Increasing Intuitional Intelligence" is available on Amazon USA and Amazon UK
as well as Amazon,de and Amazon.fr  other international Amazon sites


"What's Behind Your Belly Button?" is also available on Amazon USA and Amazon UK

as well as Amazon,de and Amazon.fr and Amazon.CA and other international Amazon sites

and it is on The Book Depository with free international shipping.


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